Abstract
In recent years, increases in medical technologies in the critical care setting have advanced the practice of medicine, enabling patients to live longer while also creating dilemmas for end‐of‐life decision‐making. Clinicians have increasingly been called on to involve patients and family members in decision‐making through a process of shared decision‐making (SDM), yet less is known about how SDM plays out in the critical care setting and the ways in which clinicians engage in SDM. Using observational data from 14 months of ethnographic fieldwork in two intensive care units and interviews with 33 family members of 25 critically ill patients and 51 clinicians, I explore how clinicians refer to the choices available in medical decision‐making paradoxically as a ‘buffet’ of choice while they simultaneously recognise that such rhetoric is misaligned with complex and emotional decision‐making, often involving pain and suffering. Lastly, this paper considers the role of SDM and the ways in which clinicians push back on the ‘buffet’ rhetoric and engage in practices to guide families in end‐of‐life decision‐making by granting permission for families to make decisions and validating their decisions to decline treatment when there is an opportunity for more treatment.