No, you don’t always have to confront your feelings right away

Let’s say you’ve gone through a breakup. You’re heartbroken, confused and angry. What do you do with all those feelings? That’s up to you. You have the power to “turn the intensity up or down on an emotional response” in a way that’s useful to you, says psychologist and neuroscientist Ethan Kross, author of a new book published this week, Shift: Managing Your Emotions — So They Don’t Manage You.