•Summary: Boys and men are subjected to sexual assault, with perpetrators drawn from both sexes. This article discusses the necessity of recognizing the victim position as a possibility within an understanding of manliness. As well as being a necessary part of work with boys and men who have been subjected to abuse, the inclusion of the victim dimension will expand and add nuance to the perception of manliness in general. An argument for the involvement of social work in the field is offered based on an understanding of its mandate and responsibility as a profession.
•Findings: A traditional view of manliness stands in the way of men being taken seriously as assault victims. Despite more recent academic and professional discourses on men as victims, a traditional ideal of manliness is still a reality with considerable influence on institutions and attitudes. Sexually abused men tend to judge themselves according to an ideal of manliness that does not allow a man to be a victim, and are thereby silenced.
•Applications: These findings have relevance for social work students, for social work practice and supervision and for directing professional attention towards the aspects of gender issues represented in sexual abuse of males.